Being a mother is the hardest most rewarding job I’ve ever had. Growing up my mother always said I’d never understand a mother’s love until I had children of my own. It’s a cliché sentiment, but it’s so SO true. I just recently became a mother of 2, but in just 5 short weeks I’ve learned that love is exponential. When you’re pregnant with your second child you wonder how you could possibly love another human being as much as you love your first. Well let me tell you, it’s possible. My heart is exploding with love for my 2 children I can barely contain it (and sometimes I don’t). Our little family is complete and I couldn’t be happier.
However, with motherhood (parenthood) your old childless self melts away and sometimes it’s hard to accept. You don’t necessarily become a different person, but your priorities shift dramatically, and inevitably there are certain people who don’t understand (sometimes yourself included). A writer of a blog I read wrote a post called, When friends have babies, from the point of view of not having a child herself. Of course I’m on the other end of the spectrum, but she summed it up nicely by saying:
Mom’s naturally lose themselves sometimes to motherhood, and the childless friends have a hard time understanding why they can’t make time. It is all normal and no one is right or wrong, but the changes are there and it’s a struggle for both parties to adapt.
I struggle with this, and I can see and feel the divide growing. And while I mourn my old life in some ways, I accept who I am today and I wouldn’t change it for anything. I simply love being a mother.
So my message is this… becoming a mother changes you. It changes your life and the people in it. Your priorities shift and sometimes you don’t even realize it. But accept it, because it’s one of the most beautiful things in the world. ❤